I'm sure there are other mom's out there who can relate to this. I hope so anyway. I love my kids with so much passion. However, there are many days, more often than I'd like to admitt to, that I don't really have the motivation to "play" with them. I don't want to be this way. I've tried talking myself into to having the desire to play with them. I've tried just doing it even when I don't want to. I love doing stuff WITH them, and taking them places... and I try to do so as much as possible. Stuff like playdates, going to the park or to a play place somewhere. Even doing the occassional art project or board game. All of this stuff comes easy because its entertaining to me as well. What I seem to have a hard time with is just sitting down and playing with them. You know, legos, cars, little people, house.... there is only so much one mom can do before these thing just become dreadfully boring. They ask me all the time to "play" with them. I hate turning them down. I'll offer other suggestions like playing a game or drawing a picture... but they tend to just insist that I sit down and use my imagination and play make-believe.
Is there any other mom out there that has this problem? What do you do as an alternitive? I'm not saying I just won't flat out play with the kids. I'm just saying being a stay at home mom, there is only so many times you can play with a toy before it drives you a little crazy.
I watched a show on Opra a week ago. I really never ever watch opra, but I was flipping through the channels before getting ready to make dinner and the title (on the menu screen) caught my eye. It read "How would you spend ONE more day with someone you love". It featured the family of the author who wrote "Don't sweat the small stuff" who suddenly died last year of a pulmonary anorism. It got my mind really thinking about the question. How would I spend one more day? What if I knew today was my last day... or even worse, one of my kids's last days. Would I be too busy or find it to boring to play legos?? No. Would I be too sick of playing house again? Definantly not. If something happened to one of my beautiful children... I would spend the rest of my life begging for the oppurtunity to play one of these silly games just one more time.
So why? Why do I still just sit here. (FYI, my kids are actually entertained right now and aren't asking for my attention) They asked me to play tag with there imaginary friends earlier... I said I didn't really want to chase imaginary people. Why did I say that? I know what I NEED to be doing. But even when I do it, its not being done soulfully. I really don't want to play tag. Or cars or legos or barbies. I know I NEED to though. How in the world do I force this into my life. Really. I would love for your opinions if your a parent. How do you... or did you... entertain your children so that you're not completly bored and distracted? I really need help as a mom in this area. I really just pray to God that neither mine or my kid's lives are cut short before I can improve in this area.
Any Advice????
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ok so just reading this makes me feel guilty because i am the same. I don't remember the last time I actually sat down and played toys with my kids. I definitely spend a lot of time with them,and I always make time to read with them. In my mind, the fact that you are even worrying about it makes you a better mother than I. But the way I see it, it's really not what you do with them that matters, it's how enthusiastic you are about doing it and the quality of the overall experience. And it's different for every kid. For example, Josh likes to spend time with me by playing a game with me. Mikayla likes to spend time with me by reading. Ashlyn is willing to do anything to get to spend time with me (must be a 3rd child thing...poor kid..heheh). I also believe the key to being a successful mommy is quality YOU time. I think if you aren't getting enough of it, you're more likely to be stressed out and gag when they ask you to play house. :)
Idk, sounds like a good plan to me.
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